Tami

Even for hardcore trekkies not palatable.

I quit after reading some pseudo-funny remarks about women Riker has sex with and how he should be careful not to contract intergalactic STDs. Because women who have sex for fun are unclean, you know.

I do believe the author when he claims to subscribe to the Star Trek values of equality and so on.

But practically?

He does sound like a 1990ies advertising/marketing douchebag.

It shows how much more sensitive one becomes.

It's as if suddenly you see casual sexism, and then you can't unsee it anymore.

I nearly wish I could still enjoy books that include slurs against sexual active women or enjoy a good old bodice ripper of which nearly 8 out of 10 include at least dub con.

Nearly.

But you cannot unsee it.

And even if it makes you uncomfortable company for the surprisingly many sexists you encounter, I DO NOT WANT TO GO BACK.

It's just sometimes I get so tired to again and again mention to colleagues who repeat what I say, that I said exactly that 30 seconds ago, stand up to colleagues who mansplain my own job to me all the fucking time, and so on and so forth.

But then I go home and sit on the couch with my husband. Who does not only believe in equality, but who never in his whole life ever had a thought that women could be inferior in any way.

There is a difference between "learnt" feminism/equality and the guys who grow up in environment that makes it natural to them, so that anything else totally shocks and surprises them.

And my husband is one of them. Who is flabbergasted and insulted not only on my behalf but other females too.

So, enough of that.